“Don’t buy the lie that you’re failing as parents”
-Pastor Holly Farver
Happy Hump Day Mama’s! I had the great pleasure of attending a parenting class at my church (Potential Church in Cooper City, FL http://potentialchurch.com/) this past Sunday. Now let me be honest I initially was not going to attend because it felt weird to me. I came into the room and sat at the back table still deciding if I’d made the right decision to come. Another young lady came and sat beside me and I felt a bit better. Before the class started we were all asked to come up front so that we could connect. I immediately thought “Oh boy” here we go. Well as I’m sitting at my table surrounded by parents it donned on me that no matter how you may struggle through parenting your kids there are other parents who are facing the same challenges. As Mama’s when we face the same challenges over and over with our kids it can make us feel like failures. We think we must be doing something wrong because if we were doing it right our children would listen and obey us. I tell my kids every single day to listen and obey the first time and it feels like it goes in one ear and out of the other. I get exhausted trying to get them to listen the first time. It makes me feel guilty as a parent when I’m trying to get my kids to do something and they just won’t. While at the parenting class our teach Pastor Holly Farver spoke these words, “Don’t buy into the lie that you’re failing as parents”. I wanted to get up from my table and run around the room shouting, seriously. Mama’s you have no idea how I needed to hear that affirmation from a mother who has raised 2 children into adulthood.
How many times are we going to beat ourselves up because we feel like parental failures? I know I am guilty of doing it and so are you. Some of you feel guilty for going to work every day and leaving your kid's at daycare. Others of you feel guilty because you are raising your children alone without the help or support of the child’s father. Sometimes we try to compensate by letting our kids get away with things they should not in an effort to make ourselves feel better. Right now I say to you that you are NOT a failure! God chose you to parent your kids. Let that marinate….Out of all the Mama’s in the world he chose you because you have everything it takes to raise them into the person God has called them to be. Don’t ever forget that. I know the daily struggles of parenting can be overwhelming, but you are the chosen one. I never imagined how sitting in that parenting class on Sunday would give me such high hopes about parenting my kids. I was able to talk with other parents, laugh about our struggles with our kids, focus on ways we can improve and connect as a support system for each other. No matter how long you’ve been a parent on how many kids you have we can all learn something new that can aid us in this journey called parenting. If you’re ever offered the opportunity to attend a parenting class, do so. If your church does not offer one seek out other parents who may be interested in attending one. Our class runs for 4 weeks. I missed week one but I will be at weeks 3 and 4. Mama’s bookmark this page or at the very least write down the quote at the beginning of this post so in those moments when you feel like you’re failing you can find comfort in knowing that you are not.
Don’t wait, Live your best life now!